20 February 2015

Comforters- getting too old?

It is no secret that both the Little ones have comforters and have done since they were born. Little 1 has Humphreys corner ones with Humphrey cuddling a blanket called 'Humphrey' no less and Little 2 has pink rabbit ones she calls 'bunny'. The girls and I went shopping the other day and bought some for the baby, they are little brown teddies holding onto a blanket with stars on and really sweet, the girls and I have decided they will be known as 'Ted'.

We have bought all our children comforters and I am glad we did, they have been very useful at times such as settling at night, starting nursery, and going on holiday or sleeping at Nannys and are still in daily use with both the Little ones. 

Little 1 had a yellow one and a white one when she was born, both Humphreys corner and very similar but it became very apparent at about 11 months old that only the yellow one was good enough so we had to source another off ebay pretty quick before we got into problems. I have always been hot on rotating the comforters and washing them often (I really don't like children with smelly or dirty comforters, I think it is horrid) so the girls have never got attached to a particular one, just the colour in Little 1's case. The white one was relegated to her pre-school bag and was left there with her spare clothes just in case she got upset or fell over while she was there (as she didn't generally take one with her or have one there) and will now only be accepted if both the other two are covered in vomit or something equally revolting and not clean yet! 

Humphrey- looking worn!
Humphrey is now 5 and a half years old and has seen better days, the yellow has faded, his blanket has had a few minor repairs and a major reattachment on one once when it got trodden on and pulled, there is an area Little 1 likes to rub when she goes to sleep that is pretty threadbare and I think may need repairing soon, his tuft of hair has gone and his trunk is flat now too but he is still very much loved.

At 5 years old Little 1 goes to bed with Humphrey every night without fail and brings him down every morning, some days he tends to be left on the sofa for the day until bedtime, but others he is a much loved toy and is well played with, he has been on many adventures. We held a birthday party for Humphrey recently at Little 1's request too! Little 1 still needs her comforter when she is ill or tired and sometimes when life just gets a bit much she can be found holding him with her fingers entwined in the blanket. I did think before she started school and turned 5 that maybe she ought to be encouraged to give him up but then I thought it was going to be a big time of change for her starting school and having a new sibling, a time when she will need her comforter and why should she have him taken away anyway, surely she will gradually give him up as she gets older. Humphrey doesn't tend to leave the house unless we are going away overnight or staying out late and she might want him in the car on the way home. He does sometimes take a trip in the car with us but it is a rule that comforters are left in the car when we are out, heaven forbid we lost one!

Little 2 has a much deeper attachment to her comforter at the moment, you see she is a thumb sucker and thumb and bunny go hand in hand. If she wants to suck her thumb she has to have bunny, it just isn't the same without him, she holds onto his ear with her thumb hand and gently rubs it on her nose! She has just turned 3 and we are beginning to think about how much she sucks her thumb, she generally does it when she is in the car, pushchair or sat watching tv as well as in bed. If she is doing any of these things without bunny she does not suck her thumb but always seeks him out after a few minutes. I am hoping that by weaning her from having bunny in the car and her vacating the pushchair for the baby therefore not having bunny (as comforters are not allowed out of the house otherwise) that she can begin a slow detachment not only from her thumb but from bunny too.


She is a funny little thing and really likes a clean bunny, as I said I like to wash their comforters regularly, and having bought 3 of them so there was always a clean one available and with Little 2 having a tendency to get the ears grubby from holding them on her face, I usually throw one in the wash every couple of days. This has, in the last few months, led to her wanting a 'sniffy' clean bunny that smells of washing powder, she can't make it more than 48 hours without wanting a clean one! I'd rather this though than not being allowed to wash them at all, having 2 children and doing lots of washing each week means it is quite easy to always have a clean one. 

What is your opinion on comforters, should  encourage Little 1 to give hers up? Do you have a favourite toy that was very important to you when you were young?

28 comments:

  1. No, I think its lovely, so long as it isn't causing a problem.
    Both my boys have used their muzzy's (muslin cloth) as their comforters, and I have lots so I get to wash them each night :)

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  2. We dont have any comforter when my son was born. He isn't that attached to soft toys too but we co-sleep so I am probably the soft toy in a way. We are going to make him sleep on his own bed soon so this is like letting go of us his comforter. I really dont know what age they should separate with them or if they need to but I know that if you will start it theres going to be challenges just like theres going to be challenges for us. So we both need a good luck =) #pocolo

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  3. Good Luck with that! we have never slept with any of our children as I am a light sleeper and hubby sleeps like a rock and so it wasn’t for us, ditching the dummy at 2 and a half was a painful battle for Little 1 so i am in no hurry to remove Humphrey from her anytime soon.

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  4. We had comforters with our two. My eldest had a pink teddy head on a pink blanket, and grew out of it by herself at around 2.5-3 years. My youngest had a "raff" which was a giraffes head on a giraffe printed blanket. We had great issues with the youngest. She always chewed it, and out of the two identical ones it was only one she would want, and one particular corner. It stank, no matter how often I washed it. It started to affect her dental health, so we had to get rid pretty sharpish around 2 years 9 months, and with a bad attitude on her, she said to get rid of it, so we did... 10 minutes later, she finally realised what happened, but it had to go. She has now attached herself to a Rudolf teddy as it was around Christmas, but at least she cant suck this one. #binkylinky

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  5. We never had them but part of the reason was my best friend still has hers now!!! Honestly I've teased her about it forever. I guess arrival of new baby is probably not a good time to get rid of them but then you could say only babies have them!! Sorry Sarah I have no idea but get rid of them sooner rather than later xx

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  6. Thanks Karen, we limit them to home and mainly bedtime and quiet time anyway but they are really attached!

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  7. That is a problem we face, Little 2 will hold anything with a knot and corner if all bunnys are unavailable such as a doll we have with a knotted hat and a toy cats tail so I think she would just find something else and there would be a lot of grief in the process!

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  8. My sons were both given comforters when they were born, but have never really gone for them and tend to prefer bigger toys. My sister had a blanket that she used as a comforter and, if I remember correctly, she was about seven or eight before she gave it up and having it that long did her no harm!

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  9. Charlotte Pearson21 February 2015 at 13:16

    It is really interesting how different children are with them - 6 year old still has his pooh bear at bedtime and if he is tired he wants him #blinkylinky

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  10. I really don't think that there is anything wrong with comforters at all. I had mine until I was 12! Grace still has hers and she is 8. She did have a dummy until she was 4 but I see no harm with her cuddling her bobo still :) Thank you for linking to #PoCoLo x

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  11. I have my 'sheety' that I have had virtually since birth. Please don't take it off me! It's my favourite thing, and I take it everywhere. It's not harming anyone! Ooooh I feel a blog post coming on..... ;) x x

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  12. I think its lovely, and I think it will naturally settle down abit. my eldest is 5 and always had his teddy George (actually the 3rd teddy as he kept losing them) over time he has become less attached, he loves teddies and has a few in his bed, at least 1 always comes downstairs in the morning but he never takes them out with us anymore, he just stopped wanting to. If we are going for a long car journey he will bring it in the car but he usually leaves it in the car when we arrive. Middle child was obsessed with her Seahorse, and its still in her bed now, but again although she is only 3 (nearly 4) her obsession has faded, she has to know where it is but she doesn't take it anywhere, she is more keen to take a dolly with her when we go out. Baby is 19 months and is completely besotted with his taggy blanket as we call it, we fail majorly if we leave the house without it, he is a finger sucker and like your little girl its usually a finger in mouth taggy in hand combo that solves all of his worries. x

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  13. Glad to hear that others children have comforters too and are the same ages as my children, I am sure that when they are ready they will use them less and less.

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  14. Tee hee, I won’t be taking anything off anyone fast!!

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  15. Thank you victoria, it is not as like it goes to school with her and is really only something that she has at home, I sucked my thumb at night until I was 10 if I needed too!

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  16. Thanks, it seems like a lot of children have comforters in the home until they are older, we just don’t know about what other families do behind closed doors.

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  17. My boys nearly 5 and he still has his blanket, always wants it at bedtime and if he's tired or sick. I think it's lovely. I'm lucky he doesn't need it out and about so it's just at home. I'm sure he will gradually grow out of it but I'm not sure when this should be but I love that he still wants it for now :)

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  18. My twins will be three soon and both have comfort items. I don't mind how long they have them for, but I wish they'd give their dummies up! They're definitely too old for dummies! Thanks for linking up to the #BinkyLinky

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  19. I wouldn't make them give them up. It's not like a dummy and, I still have my teddy and I'm 35 (ahem) ha ha don't tell anyone ;) #MaternityMondays

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  20. Little 1 had a dummy that the dummy fairy took away when she was 2 and a half, I am not sure if there is a thumb fairy!!

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  21. Sara (@mumturnedmom)26 February 2015 at 00:36

    My three have all had one, very similar to your daughters ones! My eldest doesn't use his any more (he's eight). The 5yo still has his in his bed, but only really looks for them if he's ill. The wee girl has to have 'scratchy' rabbit... She has two, but the stitching is slightly different on one, sadly! Makes swapping them a bit tricky :) I think that they will all use them for as long as they need them x

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  22. All three of my children have never really become attached to any comforters or teddies. My son almost did, but it wore off quite quickly. My twins suck their thumbs/fingers, but don't ask for any particular toy, which I found strange, maybe it's because they have each other all the time??
    I think it's nice they have a comforter, they will depend on it less as they get older naturally.
    Thanks for linking #LetKidsBeKids

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  23. Thanks for your comment, yes I am of the opinion there is nothing wrong with it in the home, I am sure when they are ready they will use them less.

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