She was obviously tired from all the late nights, she was grumpy and wingey but she was also very easily upset by little things which was unlike her and got especially upset if I told her off. She had begun to push her sister and had attempted to hit Daddy and I a couple of times when she got cross which saw her swiftly deposited on the naughty step, this was totally out of character, she is usually such a happy, gentle little girl.
After a couple of weeks of this bad sleeping I mentioned her behaviour to her preschool teacher and asked if she was being naughty there, she looked at me totally in surprise and said 'No, Not Little 1, she is as good as gold, I'm really surprised'. I was quite confused as to what was going on but I just couldn't figure it out.
Over the next week she mentioned a couple of things that made me think there was something happening at preschool. First she said she had had a bad dream about preschool when she woke up in the middle of the night crying, then one day she told me she had nearly cried when she was at preschool. When I asked her why she said she missed me too much.
The next day when she went to preschool she cried when I dropped her off, she hadn't cried once up until that point not even on the first day she started there, her teacher and I were both puzzled and I left her there feeling really guilty that I was just going home with Little 2.
That night when I asked her why she had got upset she told me that she didn't want to go to preschool as someone was hitting her. I felt totally terrible, it was such a weird feeling somewhere between that feeling of being lost when you are a child and homesick at the same time, I couldn't protect my little girl when she was at preschool and to think that my little girl had been dealing with this in her head for at least 3 weeks and I kept sending her there and telling her off for being naughty.
Little 1 told me the name of the girl and I talked about it with her keyperson the next day at preschool, apparently the girl is known to be aggressive and has done it to others, preschool are dealing with the situation.
Preschool have been fantastic with Little 1, giving her some extra attention and affection over the last week and helping her to develop her confidence in saying 'no, don't do that'. She has been taking her comforter in with her and hasn't cried this week although she did last week. She told me today that she hasn't been hit since I talked to preschool about it so I am confident that the situation is much better.
I am glad to say that as soon as this was out in the open Little 1 went back to going straight off to sleep at bedtime and her behaviour is almost back to normal, she just needs a bit more reassurance to build her confidence back up.
I am now worried about her starting school in September...... I wasn't before all this!